Saturday, February 18, 2006
On the family theme...
I wonder if my sister even gave daddy's birthday a passing thought? When my own daughter got up yesterday morning, she asked me how I was (the usual inquiry); I told her I was a little sad...she said quietly, "and I know why." I didn't have to remind her whose birthday it would have been...
Did my sister remember his birthday? Did she remember our mother died 26 years ago that same date? I doubt it. As you may have surmised, we're not close. She lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, with her daughter (the younger of her two children). I can't remember the last time I spoke to her... let alone the last time I saw her. She's five years older than I; we've had a contentious relationship ever since I can remember. If she only knew how much I admired her when I was little; I bragged on her..she has the looks, she has always been the pretty one. She never had to wear glasses as a child (something I've worn since the age of 7 and obviously needed quite a bit earlier); she never had to wear braces (ditto, I wore them from age 7 to age 9); she always had males buzzing around her like flies to honey. I longed to be popular, pretty and talented like my older sister. She apparently despised me from an early age, lying to my mother about things I never did, playing physical pranks on me... she kept it up as an adult as well. I only found out a few years ago from my grown up niece and nephew as to the extent of the lies. I took my niece (18 months older than my daughter) with us on vacation to Sanibel Island, she was 15, my daughter 13, almost 14. We had a great time; I took the niece out for breakfast one morning, just the two of us, and we chatted, giggled, the whole bit. I found out many years later that my sister had told her daughter I only invited her along to "babysit" my daughter so Pete (my husband) and I could go out. Funny, we never went out without the girls, not our style. She did everything she could to misrepresent any attention I paid to either one of her children. She would not allow them to visit us very often, nor could I stop by to see them unannounced.
Her son no longer has anything to do with her. I find the whole situation sad.
Still, I wonder if daddy even entered her mind yesterday...
Posted JDaaris @
1:46 PM ::
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