Wednesday, December 14, 2005
At what point do I quit apologizing?
Okay, I had a run in with my adult daughter this morning; she ranted and raved at me while I was working (I work at home, she was getting ready to go to work); she can be hostile and aggressive verbally, sometimes physically; I live with it. She called me later in the morning on the phone to "apologize" but she always offers an explanation for her popping off... that ain't an apology, it's just more of an excuse to rant at me. I have apologized for any real or imagined mistakes I made in rearing her ~ and I made them. However, my intent was never anything but good toward her, and still is. I talked too much when I should have kept quiet; I was quiet when I should have protested; I sacrificed to try and give her the best we could afford, tried to make her feel loved, secure, and safe. I failed; my husband, her father, and I both failed. It wasn't for lack of trying. I have apologized specifically and generally for my child rearing mistakes. I don't feel like apologizing any more... at what point can I quit apologizing? My feeling is, she is an adult, GET OVER IT. Whatever she thinks I'm responsible for in her life, is done and now she needs to move on. I'm weary.
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3:47 PM ::
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